TBSE THEORY: Do what you want whenever you want

One of my mantras is to do whatever I want, whenever I want. Despite what you may think, this doesn't mean I don't follow rules or that I do whatever i want without considering the consequences. This theory is about the importance of doing what you love, not what you are expected to do. Always having in consideration that you may be doing something you don't like but in a bigger picture YOU ARE DOING WHAT YOU LIKE.

To better understand this theory, I will put my most recent example:

I have a room in my house that was not being used at all. It became a storage room and it was filling up with dust.
I decided to turn that storage room into a gaming room.
The idea of ​​having a gaming room, which was something I had always wanted, was great, but the list of things I had to do to get it, were a pain in the ass.

Things I didn't wanted to do (but I ended up doing):

  • Clean up.

  • Disassemble furniture.

  • Throwing the old furniture (I live in a 5th floor, so no fun at all).

  • Painting the room.

  • Not being able to work for a week due to back low pain caused by the 4 prior things on the list.

  • Painting again the room because the first time was awful.

  • Buying new furniture (€€ = not good)

Things I wanted to have (and ended up having):

  • Gaming room

So, if you think about the name of the theory I'm explaining, you'll think I didn't end up having the gaming room, because 7 things that i don't want to do, just for 1 that I do? Simple maths.

But, this theory goes beyond this. This theory is about doing what you love, following your desires, your dreams, despite all the obstacles on the road. What you need to be sure about is the end goal.
If that's what you want, then you have to fight your way to it. Sometimes it'll be an easy way, a road without much obstacles, just a few turns and you're done. But sometimes, it's going to be though, you'll end up wanting to surrender, thinking that the goal is not worth it. That moment is when you fight with your mind, and YOU JUST KEEP GOING. Focusing on the HERE and NOW, whenever you're doing those tasks.

In no time, I had my gaming room just the way I liked it. Because I never stopped doing what I wanted, whenever I wanted.

In any situation, you have to use a balance. Which weights more? The good or the bad? If it's the good that weights more, then you have to do it. No matter the obstacles on the road. What if it's the bad? What if the bad weights much more than you're willing to carry? THEN YOU JUST DON'T DO IT. And I promise, you'll be a lot much happier.

To better understand this, I'm going to explain a few other situations.

  • Been invited to a party tonight <--> Want to wake up early tomorrow, and of course, without hangover.

  • Been invited to a family member's wedding <--> Do I care? Do I have to go? What will they think of me if I don't go?

  • Don't want to wake up early every day to go to work <--> Do I like my work? Do I wanna keep working?

  • My girlfriend is graduating <--> I don't like social events, do I need to go?

  • My kid is having his annual Christmas Show <--> It's so boring. Do I need to go? Can't just one of us (parents) go?

The summary of the above questions is pretty simple. Think of the bigger picture.
Worth the road? DO IT. Not worth the road? DO NOT DO IT.

What I would do:

  • Weights more the plans I want to do the next day early, so nope, today I stay at home. Don't care if my friends think I'm boring, or if it ends up being an amazing party. I'm doing what I want to do.

  • Don't have relation with that part of the family, so I don't care if we're family, I'm not doing what I'm "expected to do", I'm not going. I'm doing what I want to do.

  • Hate waking up early, but I love my job and want to get better at it. I'm doing what I want to do.

  • Don't like the social events, but I love my girlfriend. It weights more the love I have, than my social preferences. I'm doing what I want to do.

  • I know my kid wants me to be there, so there's no discussion. I love him and I want to be there for him. I'm doing what I want to do.

Depending on the person, the opinions may defer, but I hope you're getting the point.

If you think about almost any action you're doing at the end of the day, you'll see that you're doing it because YOU WANT TO DO IT.
But there are times, where you just don't want to do something and you end up doing it, because what other people may think, what you'll look like if you don't, what if the other people get angry, and a long list of worries.

Instead of worrying about things that DO NOT HAVE TO DO WITH YOU, focus on yourself, WHAT IS IT YOU WANT TO DO? Execute.

Do what makes you happy, not what make other people happy, unless that makes you happy ofc ;)